This week I read a really encouraging guest post by Lisa Jacobson on Time Warp Wife. At least out here in the West, Spring has arrived, bringing with it fresh starts and new beginnings. The warm weather invites us to throw open the windows and scrub off the dingy remnants of winter that settled around the house. Then we head outside to mow, weed, fertilize and beautify the yards. And when the end of a hard day’s work arrives, we like to sit back and admire our accomplishments. A job well done deserves a moment of appreciation. So why don’t we do that in our marriage?
So often we tend to mindlessly trod through the day in, day out monotony of life. We are sure there’s another crisis just around the corner. We are going to have to deal with another issue in our relationship very soon. The next big argument is just waiting to happen. We dealt with our trust issues, but I’m sure there’s a financial nightmare just about to jump out of nowhere. Sure, our physical relationship is improving, but that doesn’t mean he won’t hurt my feelings the next time I try to cook something new. What is wrong with us?!? 🙂 Instead of taking everything so seriously, we need to learn to appreciate the hard work that is going on day by day in our marriage! The “little” things are what become the “big” things eventually, so why not celebrate when the little things are going well? We ARE working on improving things-every day! We DO love each other and make sure to tell one another. The kids DO see us acting affectionately towards one another. We are going somewhere…enjoy the journey!
This week, if you aren’t in the middle of crisis, appreciate it! Put it into specific and detailed words. Write down what you are happy about in your marriage and give it to your spouse. Instead of a “need to get better at____” post-it note on your mirror, have a “celebrating _____” for the week. Smile. Enjoy the moment. Because who wants to get the end of their life and look back at all the battles they fought, but none of the victories?