Now, a few ground rules. When you flirt, you’re telling your husband, “I’m interested. I find you attractive. I want you.
” So if you do start adding flirting into your relationship, you’re going to have to make sure you add some sex in there, too, or else your guy is going to be getting very mixed messages (and he’ll be very frustrated).
One of the reasons that men often seem desperate for sex is because they’re desperate to know that they actually are desired. It’s not only the physical release they need; it’s that emotional and even spiritual validation that says, “I value and want you.” When they’re getting that from you regularly, then you have a lot more room to play, and kiss, and flirt, without necessarily having to make love right then and there. When you’re not making love with your husband frequently and regularly, though, he’ll be much less able to let these little things go.